Sunday, 29 July 2018

GLASSES DILEMMA


Last week we went to the Hospital for Tom's assessment before cataract surgery.
Normally I go in to see the Doctor with him but as it wasn't a life or death thing he went in on his own.
When he came out I asked him what the Doctor had said.
He told him that he had two options.
1..  He could have a lense that allowed him to only wear glasses for reading thus dispensing with his everyday glasses.
2..  He could have glasses that he would wear like now, all of the time and they would do for reading as well as normal vision.
Now, Tom has worn glasses since he was 10 years old. 
I met Tom in 1961 and have got used to him wearing them.

Here is the dilemma.
He was thrilled to bits to find out that he no longer needed to wear glasses all the time, but I was upset.
I have never known Tom without his glasses and when he takes them off he just doesn't look like
 'My Tom' 

Anyway after much discussion he has decided to keep the glasses , Phew.
I felt mean but he really does look nicer with them and I told him 'Younger' that seemed to do the trick. lol


Another Bo pic, this time in his car seat. 

17 comments:

  1. I know what you mean, my brother has worn glasses since he was a toddler and he doesn't look right when he removes them. Love the doggy photo.

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  2. I look horrible without my glasses, I have worn them since 1995, I am glad he made this decision. here in USA to our insurance pays for the one he chose, but the other one cost 6500 for the two eyes. needless to say I did not have a problem making the choice to keep wearing glasses. hubby bob has never worn glasses, he wears them to read and is about to turn 82 on Oct 1. I am jealous

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  3. I had my second cataract op earlier this year. I opted for the reading glasses. Each to his or her own, but the freedom of no longer having to wear glasses for other than reading I much prefer. 20/20 vision in both eyes now and just a bit of magnification for books and computer screen. Hope breathing improved. Slight improvement here.x

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  4. My hubby sports a beard etc, havent seen him without for years lol xcx

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  5. When I had cataract surgery I got the special lenses because of severe astigmatism, but then I couldn't read things like pill bottles or do fine crafts or anything else that I used to be able to do by taking off my glasses. I miss that. My mother-in-law also got those lenses and although she didn't need glasses except for reading for the first two years, eventually her vision changed some more and now she needs bifocals. So the special lenses aren't necessarily better. I'm glad you were able to convince him by other means :)

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  6. I know the feeling, I have a friend who no longer wears glasses and it does seem strange. I wonder if I would recognize my husband of 39 years if he shaved his beard off!

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  7. Well, this could be a hard decision for anyone! But it is all good, too. And you still have your old Tom! When is his surgery, and will he have it on both eyes? What a disappointment that you missed the Blood Moon! It was not even happening in our area. But to have this chance and dumb clouds ruined it!!!

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  8. Hi Briony, I've sent you an email. I know what you mean about Tom not looking like 'your Tom' without glasses - my husband has had a beard since before I met him. He's shaved it off a few times (he likes to do that occasionally, he does immediately re-grow it though) and I hate it, he just doesn't seem like my OH, he looks so different (he looks like his brother without it, actually).

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  9. Well at least he had options and you could both decide on one. Nice of him to go with the one that you liked

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  10. I had cataract surgery done on both eyes over a year ago. Had the special lens put in one eye, regular in the other. Had cataracts, but also had narrow angles as well - which can lead to narrow angle glaucoma (the cataract surgery eliminated this danger). But I chose to continue to wear glasses. I prefer progressive, not bifocals... and this way can see 20/20 close or far... and don't have to be always looking for my reading glasses.

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  11. That was nice of him. Best of luck with the surgery, and the new puppy!

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  12. I just came back to read the rest of the comments, and noticed Bo in his car seat - A PUPPY CAR SEAT! That is adorable :) That's a lovely photo of your husband and the puppy!

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  13. I will never forget when my father shaved his beard after years and years, and my stepsister CRIED because she'd never seen him without it! It can be shocking when people make changes like that. On the other hand, I can certainly see the benefit of being liberated from glasses.

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  14. When I had cataract removal surgery about 5 years ago I was told I should only need 'drugstore' reading glasses. That wasn't the outcome. I can manage well enough for driving and general work, but need bi-focals for computer, sewing, reading--so I wear my glasses most of the time.

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  15. My husband decided to shave his mustache one time. I freaked out. I didn't know who that man was.

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  16. My husband has had a moustache since ... forever. the one time he shaved it off, over a Christmas holiday, it ruined Christmas for me!

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