Wednesday, 27 February 2019

WORRY


🎵 Don't worry, bout a thing. 🎵

🎵  Cos every little thing's gonna be alright  🎵

In the past I have worried about things and probably lost sleep over them, but as I've got older I have come to realize that actually worry doesn't do anyone any good, least of all yourself.

Think about it.  The only person who knows you are worrying is you and it isn't making one dot of difference to anything is it?

Concern is okay as long as you don't dwell on it, it wouldn't be natural not to be concerned about certain things but worry is a no, no.

My way of dealing with worry if it peeps over the parapet is to look back and recall times in the past when I have worried myself sick over something and see that it made no difference and everything worked out in the end.


With Tom having his illness and both of us getting older I am making a concerted effort to throw worry out of the window as every moment of the day is far too precious to spend worrying.

How do you feel about worry?

19 comments:

  1. It's hard to break the cycle but I do try to rationalise things far more now. I've also found the best form of defence is attack. I tend to say what I need to say and get it out in the open.

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  2. I have always been a worrier,even from being a child.In the day time I can always deal with it because I go and make myself busy to take my mind off the problem....3am in the morning is a different matter!!..a small problem then turns into a full length horror film on my bedroom wall!!.My Dad was the same.We used to say to him that he wasnt happy unless he had something to worry about!.Yet my Daughter is the opposite and seems to let everything sail by her ...She just brings her worries to me and then I do the worrying for both of us,lol.Like you say though,it is a complete waste of brain space if nothing can be done about it.xx

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  3. It's not my favorite pastime, though I do indulge in it. Usually it's at 4 a.m. when I get up to go to the bathroom and then can't get back to sleep right away. Most of the time there's nothing I can do about the situations I worry about so there's no use in dwelling on it. But! the mind does what it wants to and it takes a lot to turn off the negative stuff. When I wake up in the morning, I can usually see the sense of not spending time worrying about things over which I have no control.

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  4. I have worried myself into a snit since as far back as I can remember. I like what you say here and believe it but doing it is another thing. I have with age stopped fretting over thigs that don't really matter, like my hair being ugly or being to fat, that kind of thing. but my fretter kicks into high gear when healh issue threaten, or if something happens that is out of my control. I am a controlling person, and when I lose control I can't sleep worrying over and at it even though I know there is nothing I can do

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  5. I've spent too many sleepless nights worrying over things, it wasn't until it started to affect my health that I realised it doesn't do any good whatsoever. Nowadays when I feel a worry threatening I reach for my kitties......they love a good snuggle & I can almost feel my worries melting away. x

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  6. I think your approach makes sense -- as you said, responding to a concern is one thing, but needless rumination is another. (That said, sometimes it's hard to turn it off!)

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  7. I just cannot switch it off. I know I should. As it does no good. How do you switch it off?

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    1. I'm not saying I never worry full stop but I try to keep it to a minimum.
      first I ask myself if I can do anything about the problem and if the answer is no then I don't worry about it, and then like I said in the post, I look back at the times when I worried and everything passed and I try to remember that.

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  8. I do tend to worry myself into a right state, especially when I can't sleep in the early hours. How people can switch it off I don't know. I know you're supposed to do something to keep yourself occupied, but I always think well how does that work, I can (and do!) think of more than 1 thing at once, my mind doesn't simply switch off from my worries. I am getting slightly better at letting things go, though.

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  9. My daughter left me those words from the Bob Marley song just after I was diagnosed with MS.

    Myself? I don't worry, there really is no point, or so I've learnt.

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    1. I do think it takes time to get it right but Marley was right, there is no point. Tom has ipf and its not going to go away, similar to what you have to deal with I guess. You have to get the right attitude to deal with it. Not easy but possible.

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  10. I tend to draw a distinction between worry and anxiety. I don't worry too much over the future, but I get nervous (I guess it's called anxiety these days) when facing things like medical or dental procedures where there is unpleasantness or discomfort involved. I don't seem to have any control over the nerves and although I try to distract myself it's not very successful.

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  11. Yes, anxiety is different, once the event is dealt with its gone whereas worry is there all of the time.

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  12. What you say is true! For me, the best thing to do is when I start to worry, pray about it. Try to turn it all over to god then let it go. The bible tells us not to lean on our own understanding, because we can't see the future like God can. But, having said that, it can be HARD! And oft times I fail at it and continue to worry.

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  13. I used to worry about everything but the older I get the more I realize what a waste of time it is. Worrying won't change what is going to happen. Taking things one at a time as they come is a much better way of handling things

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  14. I have worried about things in the past, but not any more. When I was at school I worried that I couldn't understand maths. When I was young I worried that I wouldn't get a boyfriend because I was ugly. I worried that I might get my lorry stuck down a narrow street and couldn't get it out. Now I am happy without a boyfriend. I can add up, take away, multiply, and divide, that's enough for me. I am a confident car driver, no more lorries. So nothing left to worry about.

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  15. When I was young, I used to worry about getting sick (Polio was prevalent then). My dad told me that if you dwell on something too much, it could happen. Don't know if this was wise (or accurate), but it worked for me. I stopped worrying immediately.
    As an adult, I realize that worrying is a dangerous waste of time (and possibly health). So now I tend to use the 'give it to God' system when there's nothing I can do. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.

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