Tuesday, 24 September 2019

LETTING GO


Just lately I can't seem to muster up the enthusiasm for my needlework and other crafts that I used to love so much.
I get the stuff out and have a go but my heart just isn't there like it used to be.
I'm reflecting on this and thinking that it's all a part of the ageing process.

I think that we all like to look back at the things we have done in the past and wish that we could still do them and try to recreate them, but it doesn't always work.

Tom used to do lots of man things but all the tools  like lathes etc we have given away knowing that he will not use them again. 
I'm beginning to think the same way and wondering if I should start clearing out some of my craft stuff because all the time its there staring me in the face I feel as though I should be using it.

It just seems so sad doesn't it?
Age is a cruel thing and until you are there you have no idea of just what a big deal it is.

In my mind I am still capable of anything but the reality is I'm not!

So, am I alone in this or is anyone else finding that past enthusiasms are waning?

On a good note, I'm not unhappy, just a winger, lol

29 comments:

  1. I am so sorry. I remember when Phil was so depressed he didn't want to do anything that he loved. Your gorgeous needlework! It brings me so much joy to see them, they are truly exquisite. It is a gift that you have. And I wonder...it seems that doing it made you happy. Would you ever sell any of them? I would buy some!!

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  2. I dont think it is an age thing. I am not drawing or painting. But I know I will again. I think one takes so much in life it all becomes too much and the creative side of you takes a back step. Once on an even keel it will return. So yes have a sort out get rid of some things but hang on to some as well. xxx

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    1. I think you are right Jill, we are both a bit down at them moment but trying to get back up. No easy is it?

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  3. I agree with Jill... your enthusiasm may wane, but it may also return. There are times when I feel the same, yet at some point, my joy in creating returns. And sometimes it may just need a jump-start. One day when you have nothing else going on, begin a project... and see what happens.

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  4. I know what you mean Briony!.I am just as capable of doing things that I was 20 or 30 years ago...but I just cant be bothered.I have tried to go back to things that Ive started and found that I dont want to and that includes cleaning,lol.I seem to concentrate on my kitchen scrap garden and thats about it as far as personal interest are concerned..apart from my 5 cats!.I get fed up of just going the the motions each day.I dont even read like I used to...apart from blogs!.I do have quite a few sewing repairs I need to do and I do know that once I get stuff out n start it,I will feel better for doing it...its just getting started,lol.I sometimes think I need to get another interest,but with Hubby not being great on his feet,I feel restricted with what I can do...maybe thats just me making an excuse.I think that I really just need a kick up my backside,lol.xx

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    1. At least I'm not alone. It is really annoying me though. Circumstances are not the best to give me motive, my arthritis is painful and Tom is sometimes a worry. No doubt after posting this I'll start again, lol, sods law.

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  5. The phrase"I can't be bothered" crops up a lot in my head.I am still knitting and crocheting while watching TV but not much else.My Blackwork hasn't been touched for weeks and I have 90 granny squares waiting to be joined together.I can't be bothered reading a lot either.Lots of problems in the family at the moment which doesn't help.Hugs to you.
    I do hope you get your mojo back because your work is beautiful and unique.

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  6. When I think of what I used to do craft wise I am amazed at what I did, lol. Sewing, patchwork, papercraft and knitting when I would do any complicated pattern and even made up my own patterns. Now, I make cards, still do basic patchwork and I'm still knitting, but the enthusiasm isn't there. I have ideas, but that is all they will remain. Sad really.

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    1. oh, I have ideas rushing around in my head but I never carry them out these days. lol

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  7. What can I say - other than me too! I'm surrounded by so much stuff but now lack the time, energy, motivation to do anything. At the same time I can't bear to part with it, just in case...

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  8. you are not alone, I just said to a friend, I used to go out every where taking photos, parks and prserves, Jungle Gardens, other gardens, now it is to much of an effort. I got up yesterday and said I am going the the Historical Park. I did not. age changes everything, but it is what is happening while we age that makes the difference...

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  9. I can't seem to get motivated this year to do crafts, and we have a sale near Christmas so I need to get stuff done for that. I decided to look for something completely different to make, something that would spark the old joy, and I found something, but it's still easier on my body and my head to go read a book than it is to sit down with the craft. What I'm saying is that I get what you're saying, lol

    I'd not be in too much of a rush to get rid of stuff, though. Imagine how much it would cost to replace it! Or is that the hoarder in me talking? :)

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  10. No you are not alone. I used to do so many things that I enjoyed and any more I just don't have the entusiasm for them. I want to but can't get myself to move ahead. Even my crafting has taken a hit. I still do some but not nearly as much as I used to

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  11. I get what you are saying,and it will be interesting to see how you feel in a couple of months from now. Go have lunch with friends and do different things you have been through alot and you need time hugs from Carollyn

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  12. no certainly you are not alone maybe it is the time of year but hang in there as I am sure you will get your mojo back. So liked seeing what you did and such variety too. I lost mine have not blogged etc for over 2 years but sometimes feel like doing some quilting, Need to as must have over 300 metres of fabric in my stash! I know we are all getting older I am now 72 and feeling my age these days!

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  13. You are not the only one, as you can see in the comments. I stopped doing a lot of the things I was enjoying ( painting, knitting, jigsaws, learning to play the piano) when my beloved first dog died just over 6 years ago. I have recently started doing jig saws again, , but everything else seems, as someone else said, too much bother ! I think it is partly an age thing. It is easier to just sit and rest when your back and knee hurt !! I have a part done cross stitch picture that I started for a friend's expected baby......he must be about 7 by now ! Did a bit more of it for my grandson......he is now 20 months!!

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  14. Dear Briony
    I wrote a blog post on just this subject a few weeks ago - different hobbies take precedence at different times - it all depends on what is firing your interest and also what else is going on in your life too.
    Clear outs are good (this is coming from a hoarder!) but make sure you hold onto the things that you love doing (even if you are not using them at the moment) as you will come back to them in time. In the meantime, don't worry about putting things on the back burner for now - do what you feel like doing at the time.
    Best wishes
    Ellie

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  15. I think when you get to a certain age you do start to wonder, what next. I do anyway. Do I carry on in the same way as I have been, do I do the same things, or do I change direction. I look at my stash of wood in the garage and think, will I be making something with it, or should it go off to the tip. I hate throwing things away but there comes a time when you can't keep everything.

    I think over time, priorities change, at all stages of life, not just when you get a bit older. It makes sense to take stock every now and again. If I stop doing something I have to have something to replace it, move on to something else.

    I don't go out in the evening now, no pubs, no meals, no theatre, there's nothing I want to do. I don't like being with a lot of people that I don't know. I make entertainment in my house.

    Sometimes I can't be bothered, my favourite saying, but if can't be bothered went on too long I would be giving myself a talking to. I am not ready to give up just yet, I make myself do things, but it has to be something I want to do. Just ride with it, Briony, your mojo might come back. Don't chuck stuff just yet.

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  16. No matter our age, we all go through phases of feeling creative and crafty and other times when we want to do nothing other than just BE. I love slow, quiet times. We don't always have to do be going and doing. Sometimes we just need to sit in peace. I'm sure at some point you will feel like making something again. Maybe not as often, but the urge to be creative will surely return. If there's supplies you know you won't use, perhaps they can be donated to clear space for what you really want to concentrate on. You two have had a lot to deal with and think about. It's okay to contemplate and ruminate, but don't let that be your constant state of mind. Sending hugs your way. Tammy

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  17. Sometimes you need to muster all your energy just to deal with whatever is going on in your life. Give yourself timex
    Arilx

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  18. Just reading the replies to your posts and seeing that so many people understand, hope that encourages you. From what I've read on your blog posts, you have a lot of things going off in your life at the moment, and it's not surprising that you aren't getting the same enjoyment from your crafts.
    I wouldn't get rid of stuff if I was you. If I'm feeling low, or stressed, I sometimes have to make myself do some crafting. I don't always feel like it, but ultimately feel better afterwards. I think if you are, by nature, a creative person, the desire to create doesn't go away for ever, it just gets swallowed up by the hard things in life, at times. I've had a difficult few years, but I'm glad I didn't get rid of my craft stash ( it is quite large and varied!).
    Hope you soon feel a little brighter, I know your situation won't just go away, but you may find some new strength to cope with it, hope so. x

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    1. Thank you and I know you are right, my mind just isn't in the right place at the moment. Do you have a blog?

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    2. No, I'm afraid not! You can find me on Facebook, if you use it.

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  19. I found this post both sad and honest. It focuses on an aspect of growing old that is rarely articulated. It reminded me of how my mother's interests and activities dropped away as she entered her eighties. She was heavily into a range of crafts most of her adult life. I hope you won't mind me pointing out that your penultimate word should have been "whinger" and not "winger" - unless you are now playing on the wing for Brighton and Hove Albion! Do you enjoy climbing in the team bath with the lads when the match is over?

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  20. Thank you YP for the correction. It was not meant to be a sad post just explaining how I feel at the moment and thanks for the picture in my head of me in a bath with naked men. lol

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  21. I hope you will hang on to your crafts and materials. As other readers have said, maybe life has just thrown too much at you lately and your creative side needs a rest. Don't let yourself feel guilty about not doing anything with your supplies and projects. Your mind is dealing with other things at the moment, but when you feel that creative spark again your materials will be waiting for you! xxx Sue

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  22. I am wanting to read all the replies, and it is simply hard to do it right now. I have blogs I love to visit, but if they say very much I have to wait till the right moment to take them in. I do find it hard to get stuff done...not just crafts but everything. Have first one thing happening and then there is my husband who had a stroke that used to could fix or make anything, and now he just simply cannot. sometimes I think I ought to get rid of all my fabric and sewing machines...and just forget it all.

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