Tuesday, 14 January 2020

LOOKING SO WELL


In a recent post a lovely lady commented that Tom looked so well, and he does.
This doesn't mean that he is. As I explained, he always looks well and in the past when he has been in Hospital really ill he still hasn't looked unwell.

This led me to think about the Blue Badge that is issued to people who have difficulty of some kind to get about.

When we were both 'all good' we would often see someone walk away from their car and comment that they looked perfectly all right and question why they had a blue badge.

I now understand that just because someone looks fine it doesn't mean that they are.

When Tom gets out of the car and walks to the supermarket he looks fine but when we get inside the door he finds the nearest seat to get his breath back.

So there is a lesson to be learnt here.
Don't judge a book by it's cover.








22 comments:

  1. That's so true Briony. My husband's the same, looks fine and always plays things down and says he's fine when asked - whether he is or not. So everyone thinks he is fine. Except they don't see him at home when he's grey in the face, or totally out of breath just putting his socks and shoes on, or falling asleep within seconds of sitting down. He's not like it all the time, thank goodness, some days are worse than others.

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  2. I think most of us have been guilty at some time of pre-judging others. There are so many hidden disabilities people can't see.

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  3. that is so true and I have been guilty of the same thing. for some reason if I go in hospital I look like death warmed over, bob has been several times and never looks bad. something about the MEN. although I have seen a few men that looked bad

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  4. Same here. I have a blue badge. 20% lung function. And always I meet people who say 'You look really well'. Oil of Ulay with a hint of sunshine. Sadly doesnt work on my lungs.

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  5. So true. I learned this when our daughter, age 16, developed Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and Fibromyalgia (now called ME/CFS). She looks fine. She isn't fine. Unfortunately many healthy people never get the chance to learn this lesson.

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    1. I should have said our daughter WAS 16 when she was diagnosed. She is 31 now.

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  6. This is so true!!! Both for me, and a friend who has an incurable illness. You cannot judge a person's health by the way they look!!

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  7. It is a good lesson to everyone Disability isn't just about wheelchairs and white sticks.

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  8. So very true. As humans we have a tendency to immediately judge. I did it a couple of weeks ago when I saw young guys park up front at a restaurant. They certainly looked fine to me. Lots of people here don't want to walk too far, they will do anything to park as close to the entrance, even if it means double parking or blocking someone. Then my husband pointed out that the driver did have difficulty with his feet. So, of course, I had to remind myself to not always be so quick to accuse or judge.

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  9. My other half has had so much abuse down the years because we own a white van from his working days , its obvious once hes out of the van and he gets out his crutches but im sure they think hes a delivery driver most of the time

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    1. Thanks for revealing this saucy information about Mrs Cater.

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  11. I always look well when I am ill - even when I had cancer and a major operation. In fact when I was in the waiting room at the oncology department most people went with a friend or relative and it was always quite interesting to see that when the next patient's name was called it was the person who looked quite well that got up to go in to see the doctor and not the person sat with them who looked haggard - I expect that might have been something to do with the strain that a carer / relative feels when supporting someone with cancer.

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  12. As they say, not all disabilities (or illnesses) can be seen!

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  13. "Don't judge a book by it's cover"

    You mean just like you did?

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  14. Anyone else read Ilona Meanqueen's blog? She seems to like allowing comments that demean people she doesn't agree with.

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    1. Hello Nell,I have seen you infiltrate Brionys blog in the last few weeks about Ilona.It is a shame that you are so sad and maybe you need to take a look at your life and think of something more interesting to do?...

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    2. What are you going on about - this is the first comment I've made on this blog? I see that Ilona has deleted the comment you made on her blog, which quite frankly I thought had a bullying tone. At the end of the day you might disagree with what I said, but at least I can say I don't go around making fun of other people's names.

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    3. Ha ha ha!!!,You are just showing what a sad person you are..Briony deleted your comments here because you are a troll,lol.For your information,Ilona has never deleted anything I have commented to her because she is a lovely person just like Briony is.Now go away.have a bath and take your medication.Have a lovely weekend,lol,

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