Over the years we've had our fair share of trauma's and family troubles and I have usually sailed through them all managing to keep cheerful and positive.
As I've got older I seem to have lost my stoic attitude and things trouble me that once would not have done so, probably because I now have more time to think.
Lately I have been quite upset by lots of things, mostly family things that I have no choice over but it upsets me and therefore it upsets Tom.
It's funny how a small thing can bring about a solution to a problem.
The other evening we were watching a programme and the actor mentioned putting a wall between them.
It was then that the solution hit me.
All I have to do is have an imaginary wall in my mind and throw all of the problems over the wall.
Every time I think of one I will remember that it is no longer with me but over this wall out of harms way.
Going to give it a good try, I'll let you know how I get on.
After all, A man's life is what his thoughts make of it, isn't it?
By the way, that's not me in front of that wall. LOL
After all, A man's life is what his thoughts make of it, isn't it?
By the way, that's not me in front of that wall. LOL
But what if you throw so much over the wall that it piles up and starts appearing above the top of the wall? You could also be fined for fly-tipping Briony. I think you are right about having too much time to think. I am the same. When life was busier and filled with activity and responsibility there was less time to mull things over.
ReplyDeleteI might get some of it back at a later date, that's if Tom doesn't mind going up the ladder to retrieve it. lol
DeleteI love the wall analogy. If you have no control of the problem, then it will stop you dwelling on those issues. No point carrying other people's troubles around, especially if it can make no difference to them. I think it should be a brightly coloured wall that makes you smile, like this one and helps to move your thoughts to more positive matters. That is a fabulous colour, by the way.
ReplyDeleteI've just realised that the coloured wall is the same colour as my throws and Tom's socks, must be something to analyse there, lol. There I go again over thinking..
DeleteAging does slow a person down and give a person more time to think.
ReplyDeleteThrowing one's thoughts away aren't always so easy, they can be so heavy.
Tell me about it..but I have to try. We have little time left now and it's being spoilt by negative thoughts,
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ReplyDeleteI think it makes sense to set things aside that you can't change or do anything about, rather than fret over them. I suppose that's chucking them over the wall, more or less!
ReplyDeleteI have a tendency to think too much so often have to stop myself from agonizing over things. Engaging in positive activities, especially crafting, or watching inspiring videos, can help to redirect our thoughts. Sometimes you actually have to set boundaries (or build an imaginary wall) to keep people from throwing their problems at you.
ReplyDeleteI hope this works, my mind drives me NUTS.. i have searched for a way to shut it down..
ReplyDeleteA lot of food for thought there. Sorry couldnt resist! I too fret a lot but then try and stop and ask, Can I do something about this? If the answer is no I stop fretting. If I can then I get on and do something about it. Other than that I paint and draw which switches the brain off - for a while.
ReplyDeleteI can completely understand the family issues. We've had many adversities over the years with family. I choose not to let them get me down. While one sister will wring her hands and make dramatic faces and bring doom down upon us. The baby sister gets very depressed and it's the end of days.
ReplyDeleteI choose not to be that way. Trying to do what is right and take care of what I can. I don't worry about what if's and what if this happens. Otherwise, I'd be insane by now.
I hope it works for you!
ReplyDeleteWell, it's worth a try. I will try it too! We have nothing to lose.
ReplyDeleteI'm exactly the same. It can get quite exhausting carrying so many problems or worries around. I'm definitely going to try this solution too.
ReplyDeleteI hope that is a successful strategy, Briony...I often can't shut my mind off either. Music or writing sometimes help. Best to you.
ReplyDeletethis sounds a good idea like you I have too much time to think and worry about my girls and their problems that I can do nothing about and more often than not find they are not worrying themselves so why should I so a wall is going up for me too
ReplyDeleteI good to know others have problems that seem to overwhelm them, I kind of do this but I try to deal with things, cause I want to hide from them, so I "go throw my problems" and pray for how to deal with them and then its the wall behind me :)
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That's a good idea. Maybe Ill have to try out a wall too the next time a meltdown starts
ReplyDeleteI'm definitely going to try this solution too.
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