All of my life it seems I have been concerned and even paranoid about my weight.
Even when I was a child I was always larger than most kids, not fat, but heavy.
Taking part in the sports day was a nightmare as I couldn't run to save my life.
Through my teens and after having the children, diets were a continual thing. The 5 a day diet, the grapefruit diet etc and none of them worked for long.
Tom and I have eaten pretty much the same all through the years, so what I would like to know is, why has he stayed the same weight and can eat pretty much anything and not get fat when all I have to do it look at a cake or bar of choccy and I put on pounds?
I do understand that a lot of kids now are obese and possibly the reason is that they are not active.
We used to be playing out in the street from dawn to dusk, running and cycling and its a shame that with the amount of cars now this isn't possible but I'm sure that eating is not always the reason for obesity.
We are all made differently and our bodies work in different ways.
I've got to the stage now when I'm not bothered any more. I've thrown away the scales and seem to stay around the same weight.
Looking back I wish I'd done that years ago and not tormented myself thinking that I shouldn't be the shape I was.
What's your take on this subject?
I always felt bigger than others when growing up, now looking back at photo's I see myself differently. But body images everywhere where thin women, and I was blinded by the media. Every image is about a perfect body, home, kids, a perfect life, much better to have a real life, kids and family.
ReplyDeleteI have never been fat but I admit that I am overweight. I could pick up a bag of shopping weighing two stones and it would be quite heavy to carry down the street. But that's the amount of excess baggage I am carrying around all the time. I am sure that if I had the will to lose it I would feel better and my life would last longer too but you can't beat a nice pie!
ReplyDeleteThe way it is with you and your husband, is the way it was with mine and myself. He was slim and stayed that way. After menopause, I gained weight, and somewhere read that at that time in our lives, our bodies save fat. I just googled and found the following quote:
ReplyDelete"Fat is Your Friend.
When your ovaries no longer produce estrogen, the body’s adipose tissue (fat tissue) takes over to produce and regulate estrogen in the body. An increase in body fat is our bodies’ way of adapting in order to regulate estrogen production as we age. Since estrogen depletion is the main cause of many of the negative side effects associated with menopause, increased regulation of this hormone can help mitigate many of these undesirable symptoms."
From this website: https://www.jessihaggerty.com/blog/why-you-gain-belly-fat-after-menopause-and-why-its-ok
I did just buy a pedometer and plan to get up off my fanny and away from the computer in this new year. I plan to garden more and work on projects around here that need taking care of. I had to weigh myself yesterday, UGH, to put the info, along with my height and my stride into the pedometer. Seeing the number of lbs I weigh made me want to start eating healthier also. I'm not stressing, but have been thinking for quite awhile now that I am 'sitting' way too much. It wasn't like this when my dear husband was still here on this planet and I had my job. I've become sedentary since those two events.
Eat and drink in moderation and be thankful for our many blessings.
Have a wonderful 2019 ~ FlowerLady
I've rarely been happy with my weight. I'm not excessively over weight but enough so that I don't like it. I know for me the problem is poor choices in what I eat and eating too much of it along with not being active enough. It does seem unfair that 2 people can eat the same thing and one gains while the other doesn't.
ReplyDeleteMy sister was always a chubby child, who turned into a heavy boned teenager, then a chunky mum with two kids. She took after our mother who had an unhealthy lifestyle. I was a stick insect when I was a child, a skinny beanpole when I was a teenager, I took after my dads side of the family. I put weight on when I was driving because I couldn't get affordable healthy food when on the road. Snacking was my downfall, my clothes got uncomfortably tight, the grazing had to stop. I started doing my own pack ups, taking food with me from home.
ReplyDeleteMy sister tried lots of diets, her weight went up and down, then she became more determined and altered her whole outlook on food. She did very well, the weight came off, and stayed off. She also stopped smoking. Strangely enough though she now has more health problems than me, so I don't know what's happened there, probably down to genes inherited.
I think a persons weight is determined by three things, how much and what they eat, how much they move about, and the genes inherited from their parents. If you have a problem with all these things, you haven't got much chance of keeping within an ideal weight. Some of it is luck of the draw, some of it can be changed.
I was born short and chubby with plenty of rolls and have stayed that way all my life! Everyone would always say "she takes after Aunt Rose" - who was short and very round. One sister was of average build, and the other was slim and trim. We all ate pretty much the same thing and had the same activity level, which in those days was being outside running around and riding bikes whenever possible. I've tried every diet published over the years and last week I started Weight Watchers again. I'm not sure if you have that in the UK but I think it's similar to Slimming World. Unfortunately, I still wake up every morning hating my weight. No matter the accomplishments I've made or the wonderful relationships in my life, it's always there. My S.O. says that we don't smoke, we don't drink, we don't gamble. So food is our only vice and we sure enjoy it!
ReplyDeleteYou're right everyone is different. Not everyone enjoys sport but we are told to do it. I enjoy gardening so I decided that was my sport and exercise. I decided a long time ago, I am who I am ans I am not changing because I am very happy.
ReplyDeleteJulie xxxxx
Wow looks like you got plenty of feed back on this subject 😃 I was slim till having babies and then have diabetes and high blood pressure but I have recently cut carbs and that's helped me tons I still overweight but dont need meds and its help curb hunger and I dont want to loose my sight I so love crafts. But i dont weigh myself any more just tired if that.
ReplyDeletewhat you wrote in the first paragraph is also my life. I have big bones, my skeleton weighs what a size 5 to 7 weighs. I constantly compared my size 12 to my friends size 5 when in school. they were 5'3'' I was 5'6'' and looking back I made myself totally miserable all of highschool. I wish I could have a do over.
ReplyDeleteI have gone from 220 to 160 in the past 2 years, am a member of TOPS take off pounds sensibly. I kicked the up down see saw of dieting and have changed the way I eat. it is very difficult for me, I am a grazing person, hungry all the time. the reason I did this is not to be small but because I was having trouble walking or getting up and down and staring diabetes in the face. I gave up sugar, just doing that has dropped my weight slowly. but I eat the things I love other than that. I do know that my whole life I said other people eat and don't get fat, but have found the reason I got fat was I ate all the time because I love to eat. I stopped grazing and I lost weight. weight is controlled by input of food and out put of excecise and also the amounts of non healthy foods. my brother was thin and so was daddy, mother and I both fat, very fat. we all ate the same food but the difference was Daddy and david ate until they were full and we continued to eat and eat. 1 piece of pie is what they ate, we snacked on sugar all day long.... excecise is what I have added, walking and dancing in front of youtube and five days a week in the pool. the weeks I miss walking every day I gain, the weeks I walk I don't.
I like the sound of TOPS, a very sensible way of monitoring weight loss.
DeleteWell, don't get me started. I have been terribly obese. The doctors call it mortally obese. So I have been on diets all my life. Phil can eat anything he wants and will not gain much, and so can our son. But it really seems to be an entirely different thing for women. I wonder if it has something to do with hormones? I recently lost 100 pounds and am trying to keep it off. Not for vanity, but because of torn shoulders and a bad knee. I need a wheelchair or scooter to go through big stores, and cannot do steps. So the more I weigh, the more pan I have. I take morphine once a day. I gained about 10 pounds over Christmas, so am back on my diet. It is a constant struggle, and always hungry!! And unlike drugs or alcohol, food is EVERYWHERE, and you have to eat. Is hard for me to pass ice-cream shops and fast food places when we are out. And then the food commercials on T.V., glad I can speed right through them.
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ReplyDeleteYour Willow Tree embroidery is stunning and the cats coming along a treat.
Being on steroids this past 18 months I've put on more than a little weight, positive thinking is my mantra for this new year, happy thoughts and just try and be the best ME I can.
Have added you to my blog reader so I'll be back to get to know you better.....
I have always had the opposite problem. Although I had been up to 60 kg I was down to 55 kg when Max went into care and, with the stress caused while he was in care I stayed at that weight. Since having the stomach bug over Christmas I think I am now 52kg. Not heavy enough. The problem is that if I put any weight on now it goes straight to my stomach. It can be just as hard to put weight on as it is to lose it.
ReplyDeleteHello from Idaho and stop in from Mad Snapper. I'm clueless why some people stuggle with weight and other don't.
ReplyDeleteI belong to weight lost support group and I learn each of us have our own method of loosing. It taken me a good five years to figure it out.
If you have time stop in for a cup of coffee
I've lost almost 5 stones in the last 12 months, and am now over 7 stones less than I was at my heaviest. I'd been overweight, and then obese, for most of the last 30 years( when I wasn't yo-yo dieting). My health has improved enormously, not to mention my self esteem. I took steroids from May 2016 to January 2018, but once I stopped taking them because my auto immune disorder was in remission I joined Slimming World and haven't looked back. I'm almost 54 and menopausal, and didn't want to be even bigger than I already was. I'm 5'7 and now a size 10 instead of a size 18 ( I was a size 22 at my biggest), and weigh the same as I did aged 19. I eat a lot, and am never hungry, because I make better choices these days. I had a lovely Christmas, but was still 1.5 pounds under my target weight when I weighed in last week. I feel like I've finally found something that works for me.
ReplyDeleteYou have done remarkably well on the weight loss. Congratulations.
DeleteSo many things come into play... gender, hormones, genetics, etc. Our body shapes & our body types are all unique to each individual. My husband is a string bean but so is his mother. I am of Hungarian/German descent so I wasn't a size 3 even when I was born. :-) Just be healthy... that's it. That's all that matters anyway. Love, Andrea xoxo
ReplyDeleteI never had a weight problem until my thirties when I had a lot of stress and started to stress-eat. Now I am carrying far too much weight, and have associated problems with my hips and knees. The only things I have found make much difference are getting enough rest and eating enough protein with each meal, but it's a constant battle to avoid salty and sweet treats. In fact, I lose more of the time than I win. I wonder sometimes if it's in my genes too because almost all of my dad's sisters were the same shape I am now. Round. Who knows?
ReplyDeleteI've had the same problem all my life. 2 tiny sisters and I'm the one that looks like she ate all their food. My Dr. just called. Hubby's bloodwork was perfect. Mine sucked as usual. Aren't I lucky.
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