As most of you know, Tom has an illness called IPF. This is a lung disease that gets progressively worse and there is not a cure.
It was just over a year when it was discovered after surgery for a different thing and we were all knocked sideways.
How do you deal with this kind of thing? Its hard.
Over the past year we have been high and low. we've been positive and despairing.
We have been together for 58 years and been through a lot of ups and downs but this is the worst.
We all know that we will die one day but even if we are 80 years old we still have hope that we will live until we are 90, when you are given a life expectancy its different.
I write this as we have had a week of coming to terms shall we say. The weather hasn't helped with it being damp because Tom finds it more difficult to breath and coughs a lot more, but we are gradually getting to the point where we are both accepting what is happening and trying our hardest to make the most of each day.
Today its sunny and the difference is marked, we both feel so much more positive.
One of the problems with Tom is that he looks so well and people find it difficult to accept that there is anything wrong.
So if you are well, make the most of each day and try not to complain about little aches and pains.
Non of us know what is in the future do we?